From a distance, it appeared that I was living every girl’s Disney fairy-tale life. I married the very cute, yet somewhat mysterious high school bad boy who was 3 years my senior. We had two children together, a boy and then a girl. We bought a property and then built the house of our dreams together. We had two dogs, one cat, 4 ferrets, 2 motorcycles (his and mine) and two jet skis (his and mine). We started and then built a very successful auto repair business with multiple locations and we vacationed every winter with and without our kids. People who didn’t know us well would think that we had it ALL, but our friends and family were all watching from a safe distance waiting for the big explosion.
I was only 16 when I began that chapter in my life. Before then I had been a very shy and introverted teenager who was at first shocked, then proud to have captured the attention of this man. But as the dust settled, and we got married, I threw myself into being the best wife and then best mom that I could. The best that is, based on what little I knew at that point in my life.
In hindsight, I can see how the breakdown in our marriage was just as much my fault as his, but at the time I was convinced that not one ounce of the blame belonged resting on my shoulders. I really thought I did everything I could to make him happy, not realizing that was a big part of the problem.
Single again, I can remember being in a constant state of anxiety not knowing how I was going to even pay my mortgage every month let alone all of the utilities, food and other daily living expenses. And yes, it was hard to raise and financially support an 8 & 12-year-old on my own, but I thought it was better to set an example for them as a happy single person than have them witness the daily dysfunctionality of our marriage. I can vividly remember the day when I realized that if things didn’t change, they would both wind up in similar relationships and I wanted more for them than that. We both wanted more for them than that.
“SUCCESS comes by choosing what you want most over what you want now.”
The next chapter in my life was all about reinvention and finding a clear direction. I was 36 and it was time for me to figure out that childhood question, “What do you want to do when you grow up Christie?” Little did I know that it would take me a long time to figure out that answer?
Years later I can look back and see how every aspect of it all, both the good and the bad, created the perfect foundation for who I am now. I developed strength and determination to be a creator and leader rather than a follower. I did not have the luxury of being comfortable in a mediocre life; I had to work hard every day, week, month to do more than just to pay the bills. I wanted to do more than just get by. I wanted to create a multiple six-figure business, so I took actions to make that happen. I became an avid learner and consumer of teachings from the best experts in the industry. I’ve had dozens of mentors, coaches, advisors, and teachers. I then went on to develop a system to help others share their mastery and message to their ideal audience so that they too can make a bigger impact and help more people in less time and make more money.
I used to have a “block” around money. But, I now BELIEVE that the more money I make, the more people I can help and the more time I have to spend with my family, my adorable grandchildren and with my friends riding in the wind on our motorcycles.
I hope you’ll let me help you discover and then implement the same principles. YOU DESERVE IT!!!
Hugs and Blessings,
Christie Ruffino is a 7-times Amazon Best-selling Author, a Story Brand Marketing Coach & Breakthrough Speaker. She is a student of human nature, avid reader, serial smart ass, closet rebel and the proud grandma of the two most adorable kids ever!!!! (And she has thousands of photos to prove it.) She loves ideas but loves idea implementation even more. She can roll her tongue, she swears she will NEVER skydive but is addicted to triple-digit speeds down open country roads on her 2013 Harley Davidson Streetglide.
As the creator of the Dynamic Professional Women’s Network and the Overcoming Mediocrity book project, Christie is dedicated to igniting a global movement of ambitious female entrepreneurs who want to build a thriving business around their passions and gifts. And she helps them connect to other like-minded women so that they become stronger together. So that they can crush it together!!!
Christie’s niches are to help female entrepreneurs build a stronger, more engaged and productive business tribe and to help them build a monetizable, scalable and highly visible business around their core-brilliance.